Girlfirend thinks watching porn is cheating

[johnross12]

My girlfriend thinks watching porn is cheating. Could someone explain why some women think so

[renae_d]

Not to say that I agree with your girlfriend, but let's imagine a scenario:

You come into your girlfriend's bedroom and the computer screen has got a very sexy man on it looking into the camera and gripping his rather large and girthy penis. She's in just a bra and going to town on a dildo.

Would you not feel a little pang of jealousy, even if you knew that was a silly reaction? Would you not think, 'hey, if you were so horny, I'm available you know!'? Or maybe, 'I wonder if she wished I had abs or penis like that guy?' Or ' does that dildo feel better than I do?'

We all experience sexual jealousy for someone we really like, and we all have insecurities. Technically it is illogical to consider it cheating, since that would mean ogling other women, or fantasizing about them would be cheating too, but it is a pretty natural reaction, I think.

I might be way off base, but what if you tried making your own 'porn' together. Doesn't have to be a video, could start with sexy bra and panties pics (or whatever she might be comfortable with). It might make porn a bit more relatable, and make her feel like she is #1 in your book for sexiness (which is what she really wants).

[masie]

Renae thats a great way to decribe it, I can't really add anything more. I would say that maybe you might find somethign you can enjoy together even if it is reading erotic stories together, find something that she likes and explore it together.

[johnross12]

Not to say that I agree with your girlfriend, but let's imagine a scenario:

You come into your girlfriend's bedroom and the computer screen has got a very sexy man on it looking into the camera and gripping his rather large and girthy penis. She's in just a bra and going to town on a dildo.

Would you not feel a little pang of jealousy, even if you knew that was a silly reaction? Would you not think, 'hey, if you were so horny, I'm available you know!'? Or maybe, 'I wonder if she wished I had abs or penis like that guy?' Or ' does that dildo feel better than I do?'

We all experience sexual jealousy for someone we really like, and we all have insecurities. Technically it is illogical to consider it cheating, since that would mean ogling other women, or fantasizing about them would be cheating too, but it is a pretty natural reaction, I think.

I might be way off base, but what if you tried making your own 'porn' together. Doesn't have to be a video, could start with sexy bra and panties pics (or whatever she might be comfortable with). It might make porn a bit more relatable, and make her feel like she is #1 in your book for sexiness (which is what she really wants).

Do you think maybe her insecurity about her own body might have something to do with it? She's not your average age 25-year-old model who weighs between 100 and 120 lbs. I've heard her complain about how I might think she stacks up against models I see on the Internet. I think she's sexy and woke up on Christmas Eve to the sight of her standing completely naked at the foot of my bed when I opened my eyes.

One of the things I have liked about this site over the years is it features women who look like someone who I might see on the street, in a bar, or at a social event -- not on a New York or Milan catwalk.

[lion03]

renae your scenario ,is what my wife would say, maybe not do. and point taken,but interesting speaking in a round about way against A. W site,but that is what I like about the site - the honesty of site and models.

[Mila]

Some males believe watching porn is cheating, as well. Heck, I know a guy who just thinks his partner masturbating at all, even without porn, is a sort of betrayal. If you've got an itch, scratch it! That's my $0.02.