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    Abby models prefer casual sex or monogamy?

    I've often wondered about women that work in porn in general, but I think I will direct this specifically at the women working for this fine site. Since you obviously have no issues posing nude or in the case of T3 models, performing sex acts on other women, I wonder if this exhibitionist lifestyle carries over to your "real life" at all? Are you in committed monogamous relationship, or are you in a committed, but open swinger-type relationship where you bring home a cute guy or gal to share? Are you single and prefer to play the field? If so, did you find that even before modeling for the site that you were a little wild and promiscuous? Or do you completely separate your work here from your personal life... what happens here stays here and your real life persona is absolutely different?

    #2
    Hey, PDox.

    Just a couple of points.

    Remember that this isn't Playboy, the models here are not on contract, and for most of them modeling here is a one-and-done deal. A few of them are "regulars", but even for them modeling consumes just a small part of their life. Maybe I'm wrong, but my guess is that the percentage of "wild and promiscuous" models here is pretty much the same as for the general public for their age. (Not to mention that "wild and promiscous" is a very value-laden description. With respect to the morals of their grandparents, probably most 18-year-olds today are "wild and promiscuous".)

    Also, if you go to the "Models Speak" forums, many of the models speak openly about their relationships, so you might get an idea from reading those. Immie, for example, speaks lovingly of a Mr. Immie; apparently she's currently monogamous. Cleo seems to have an on-and-off relationship with one particular guy (of whom I am openly jealous).

    Do some research, you can answer your own question!

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      #3
      Well said that Arsby man!

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        #4
        arsby: Yep, I second Breezer, well said. Keep in mind that we Abby models are also quite a diverse group. I believe quite a few are monogamous, while others are... not. And while Mr Immie and I may appear monogamous, we're actually not, although we have perhaps been acting unusually so over the last few months. You might say we're in a "committed open relationship". And we don't necessarily bring home hotties to share, we do have our seperate dalliances, but sometimes the sharing comes into it later. It just sort of depends.

        As for what we prefer; I myself love the security of a committed relationship with someone I love, and having that coupled with the ability to still go out for the thrill, although I obviously need to be extra cautious. We do have our rules, such as ALWAYS using barrier methods (a no brainer, really), and generally keeping each other informed on what's going on. I guess many people would call that "having your cake, and eating it, too", but I always found that a little odd. By living that way, you do invite the possibility of extra strife into your relationship, and you HAVE to deal with it pronto if you want the relationship to survive. It's strange, I sometimes feel like poly relationships are more explosive, but for that precise reason, they often end up more secure, in my humble opinion. What I'm saying is, when you involve extra people, you have to get really bloody good at communicating, which is a basic skill in keeping a relationship alive. I'm not sure how much basis I have for this, but I get the feeling that quite a few monogamous relationships continue with this little undertow of some undealt-with problem, which would have had to be dealt with quickly in a poly relationship so that things didn't go BOOM really quick. Case-in-point, my AW modelling gives me more opportunities to get into sexy situations than Mr Immie has, so we have had many long discussions about where the limits lie, and how to ensure that we both feel fulfilled and happy. It's like a monogamous relationship buys you time, but it seems that things can turn to shit very quietly over that time without you realising it more easily than in a poly one. Does that make sense? I'm not sure. In any case, I won't go on about it, because I've already lost all hope of being concise about this.

        I guess in a nutshell, you can take the extra benefits, but you have to be willing and able to deal with extra complications, too.

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          #5
          ... Immie! As always, you say it so well and are unafraid to wade into a new topic, no matter who posts it.

          As for our friend, Arsby's remark, "With respect to the morals of their grandparents, probably most 18-year-olds today are "wild and promiscuous", well, I wouldn't agree quite so fast!

          Way back in the '70s, living in a "deep South" university town, I take no pride in acknowledging that I lost track at 30-some women I had sex with between age 18.5 and age 22.25 when I got engaged to my present bride. A different woman every five or six weeks didn't seem particularly promiscuous at the time, even allowing for a few "steadies" I naturally had through that time.

          To me, from what I can tell, most of our better-known models are not particularly "promiscuous" at all, beyond the normal hormone-inspired partying and brief encounters that most have, 16-26... Playful? Yes? "Naughty"? Of course! But these are women who are, probably, most promiscuous right here in AbbyLand, on these boards, flirting and hoping to have relations with this or that other AbbyGirl.

          Better that that some strange dude at four in the morning at some bar!! Uh huh!!!

          Anybody agree??
          Last edited by FloridaRob; 18 January 2009, 02:45 AM. Reason: punctuation...

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            #6
            Well, Rob, there is the safety aspect, I suppose... AW does certainly grant the girls a very safe environment in which to have sex, especially as it is a requirement that we are tested for STDs before we do any touchy below. But I myself don't tend to do the bar pick-up thing anyway... I usually seduce some sweet nerd over a few weeks, or make a sexy friend online. If you put me into a pub or club, I will invariably not find any of the men attractive, usually...

            Although there was a very sexy piece of man-flesh that walked past at the nudist beach the other day... heh heh heh! >:-D

            And by the way, Rob, I'm pretty impressed with the numbers you racked up. You make me feel downright restrained. :-D

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              #7
              Originally posted by immie View Post
              Well, Rob, there is the safety aspect, I suppose... AW does certainly grant the girls a very safe environment in which to have sex, especially as it is a requirement that we are tested for STDs before we do any touchy below. But I myself don't tend to do the bar pick-up thing anyway... I usually seduce some sweet nerd over a few weeks, or make a sexy friend online. If you put me into a pub or club, I will invariably not find any of the men attractive, usually...

              Although there was a very sexy piece of man-flesh that walked past at the nudist beach the other day... heh heh heh! >:-D

              And by the way, Rob, I'm pretty impressed with the numbers you racked up. You make me feel downright restrained. :-D
              Immie, it doesn't surprise me that you, in particular, would not be a bar scene type and it makes us all feel better whenever we are reminded of the positive, caring, and sensible "rules" for models. I'd like to think that most subscribers here are in tune with smart, respectful, and egalitarian good times.

              I think newer subscribers come to understand that, learn from it, and enjoy it or else they probably bug off, back to the high heels, moaning and groaning!

              Having said all that, I believe that, here in the States, there is an industry self-regulation thing that has regular sex industry performers tested and "certified", regularly, as a condition of working. Are there rules like that in Australia or only a site's rules?

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                #8
                Rob, I have no idea what the actual laws regarding this are in Australia... but I think that Abby is particularly strict or something. Not sure.

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                  #9
                  I think most of us are your every day girls next door- and obviously have some very strong values considering we chose AW to model on rather than other sites. I personally did it because I had poor self esteem until recently and this really was the ultimate challenge. But I also did it because I have a strong sexuality and it ebs and flows and changes over time. It was something a little bit adventurous, off the wall, eroticism that is still taboo in our mainstream society. I believe in deeply committed and faithful, loving relationships but my definition of 'faithful' doesn't necessarily mean 'monogamous'. I don't like the idea of ownership or control or vetoing the experiences of someone you love. I believe in respect and honesty and if monogamy is natural to you, then go for it. If it isn't natural for you, then agreeing on boundaries and adhering to them faithfully is important.

                  Nat and I were monogamous for two and a half years before I started to get a little restless. I met some new people, gained new perspectives and learnt to like my body a little more. So we chatted, and as a starting point I did an AW shoot It was our three year anniversary in June and to treat ourselves we brought home a present to share- two actually! They were a couple like us, into shaking up the status quo a little. We are open now, but only with one another. And we too have rules- when being intimate with guys we always go with safe sex; and to protect ourselves and keep some intimate things special we don't engage in oral sex with guys or girls- only one another.

                  Other than that, we are your average couple, going to work, tidying the house, maintaining the picket fence. We usually have sex a few times a week, usually just with each other, occasionally using toys- nothing too wild. We just happen to be open to new experiences is all. That's my story- how about everyone else? Any true exhibitionists out there? Any girls who kissed a girl for the first time on AW? I bet there is a whole range of experiences between models

                  kisses,
                  Nell

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                    #10
                    Originally posted by FloridaRob View Post
                    ...

                    Way back in the '70s, living in a "deep South" university town, I take no pride in acknowledging that I lost track at 30-some women I had sex with between age 18.5 and age 22.25 when I got engaged to my present bride. A different woman every five or six weeks didn't seem particularly promiscuous at the time, even allowing for a few "steadies" I naturally had through that time.
                    Rob, I'm extremely jealous. If there were PM's on this site or we ever had the chance to sit down face to face, I'd love to chat and find out exactly how you managed to get so many girls into bed. I managed to get zero girls in my college years...(and unfortunately, most of my life), so speaking to you would be a real education!

                    BTW, I'm proud of you, not because you of all the young women you bedded, but that you had the know-how, the social skills to be able to do it. Some guys do have all the luck.
                    Last edited by laktor; 22 July 2010, 05:54 AM.

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                      #11
                      each woman is different: posing or not nude!
                      In what concerns my sexual life, I am single for 3 years because I didnt feel like what society told me about relationships fits me anymore,where you are with your one and only lover ,where you can find everythig in him as long as you talk and share with him.
                      SO right now in this moment I can share that I am dating with a few guys, I am getting pleasure from all of them and I am getting differently from eachone and I like it...I like to compare what does this frisky friend nicely ,what would I love to get next time ,what will I do with other guy ,how to date new guys!
                      it is because if I am not involved in one relationship and the guys know it,I cannot expect for everything from them...and I like it this way,I can schedule a date with somebody then right after being with another guy in the same day seeing how I feel for a second treat....I think its complicated,but it does makes sense to me!

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                        #12
                        I love your humour in writing Rob,I feel like you are writing scenes for a movie or something!...wish that I could be soo fluent and easy going in english....as for hookinh with guys after you found them in a bar?...hum I did that,actually I think each girl has lots lots of play dates with many guys when she is 20 smth ,in univ looking to get rid of exams stress in weekends...the only thing is: they don't share it in the street with every person they meet...unless they wanna fuck them!

                        This is my reply reading your post,one more time i find it very fun!

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                          #13
                          [QUOTE=laktor;353718]
                          Originally posted by FloridaRob View Post
                          ...


                          BTW, I'm proud of you, not because you of all the young women you bedded, but that you had the know-how, the social skills to be able to do it. Some guys do have all the luck.
                          I love your humour in writing Rob,I feel like you are writing scenes for a movie or something!...wish that I could be soo fluent and easy going in english....as for hookinh with guys after you found them in a bar?...hum I did that,actually I think each girl has lots lots of play dates with many guys when she is 20 smth ,in univ looking to get rid of exams stress in weekends...the only thing is: they don't share it in the street with every person they meet...unless they wanna fuck them!

                          This is my reply reading your post,one more time i find it very fun!

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                            #14
                            I have been involved in an open relationship since before I started modeling for Abby Winters. I do consider myself promiscuous occasionally. I do enjoy casual sex, but I have always preferred intimate encounters with people I was deeply involved with. I find my orgasms are a lot more intense with someone who has feelings for me.

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                              #15
                              Since we're talking about monogamy compared with multiple partners, do any of the ladies who have modeled with a male partner for a girl-boy shoot have any thoughts about returning with a new boy? After all, even relationships that were intended to last forever sometimes don't and people find new partners.

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                                #16
                                heyo woozle, welcome to the AW world, a biiig hug from me!

                                I haven't done a shoot with my boyfriend yet, but I am curious about you: do you have a girlfriend?
                                Hoow would it feel to shoot together on AW'?

                                huxxies from Andreea

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                                  #17
                                  Originally posted by felicia_aw View Post
                                  I have been involved in an open relationship since before I started modeling for Abby Winters. I do consider myself promiscuous occasionally. I do enjoy casual sex, but I have always preferred intimate encounters with people I was deeply involved with. I find my orgasms are a lot more intense with someone who has feelings for me.
                                  Hello Felicia,

                                  I wanted to say thank you, thank you for pointing it tha way, it feels very intense being in love and having your own code with your lover and keeping the relationship warm to hot with him ....It gets friskier by time having that special thing with somebody...rather than having casual sex and trying to mold over new guy's personalty to just get to feel comfy and enjoying sex...I am passing myself through a time I feel in love with somebody and I think I would not feel his way if in the past I didnt try some casual fun time!

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                                    #18
                                    Originally posted by felicia_aw View Post
                                    I have been involved in an open relationship since before I started modeling for Abby Winters. I do consider myself promiscuous occasionally. I do enjoy casual sex, but I have always preferred intimate encounters with people I was deeply involved with. I find my orgasms are a lot more intense with someone who has feelings for me.
                                    Actually I find your post here like a sign helping me going deeper into the relationship I m starting here ,this winter....I didn't find it the same way 3 months ago, I wanna experiment and fall deeply inlove with my new male friend for the feel of some amazing sex. And talking on the phone and discovering funny stories makes the eart skip some beats tooo

                                    Huxxies!
                                    Andreea

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                                      #19
                                      Originally posted by Andreea View Post
                                      heyo woozle, welcome to the AW world, a biiig hug from me!

                                      I haven't done a shoot with my boyfriend yet, but I am curious about you: do you have a girlfriend?
                                      Hoow would it feel to shoot together on AW'?

                                      huxxies from Andreea
                                      And heyyo to you, too, Andreea

                                      Maybe sixty years ago it would have been interesting, but AW wasn't around then. I'm not sure that a girl-boy shoot featuring wrinkles would attract the favourable comments you might receive if you decide to take that step. But I agree that it is a big one beyond the solo shoot and it requires a very confident male partner.

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                                        #20
                                        Originally posted by woozle View Post
                                        Originally posted by Andreea View Post
                                        heyo woozle, welcome to the AW world, a biiig hug from me!

                                        I haven't done a shoot with my boyfriend yet, but I am curious about you: do you have a girlfriend?
                                        Hoow would it feel to shoot together on AW'?

                                        huxxies from Andreea
                                        And heyyo to you, too, Andreea

                                        Maybe sixty years ago it would have been interesting, but AW wasn't around then. I'm not sure that a girl-boy shoot featuring wrinkles would attract the favourable comments you might receive if you decide to take that step. But I agree that it is a big one beyond the solo shoot and it requires a very confident male partner.
                                        Heheh....i agree with that, I tried testing my male partners in the past asking them if they would give a shot shooting nude with me , just hypotetical.
                                        Thier replies came out with lots of laughter and scenarios, but I think they would dump me at the airport right in the day of shooting, lol!

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                                          #21
                                          Omg, I saw today woozle online and, surprisingly, I found all of my posts, oh my, oh my... I think they were among the first ones. So, everything I wrote is genewine and sincere, I was having many relationships during university, now I know because I was a coward to ask the questions that were mocking me to my partners.


                                          2. I started that relationship, and guess what , it lasted for good and we are still together, we shoot for abbywinters and yes, its Good. I have realized he is very open minded, since he did not run or dump me at the airport befor our GB shoot.
                                          3 it has been one year since our shoot and we kinda spicing up our lives traveling together, helping eachother and pushing ourselves into new projects. I can' t wait to learn how to drive again with him.
                                          By the way, I am doing playdates to raise for a car to learn how to drive. we have it already, but we are paying a sort of a loan for that...life it's great!
                                          Thanks wozzle for being online!

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