30 Day Sex Challenge

[renae_d]

Hey guys!

So my boyfriend and I haven't been having quite as much sex as either of us would like, so I decided to get us back in the swing of things with a 30 day sex challenge! You can find a few different versions online, but I decided to make my own, picking the 'best' of a few I found. I thought I'd share my version in case anyone wanted to 'play' along

Day 1: try a new position
Day 2: have sex at a time other than before bed
Day 3: wear something different as foreplay
Day 4: sex in the kitchen
Day 5: sex with your clothes on
Day 6: slow sex
Day 7: talk (dirty) during sex
Day 8: have sex outside
Day 9: buy a sex toy
Day 10: give each other a sensual massage before sex
Day 11: watch porn together (we've got you covered )
Day 12: she dominates
Day 13: trade fantasies and act them out
Day 14: sex in the car
Day 15: read erotica together
Day 16: tie him up
Day 17: tie her up
Day 18: sexy massage
Day 19: sex without penetration
Day 20: naughty outfit sex
Day 21: blindfold her
Day 22: BDSM sex
Day 23: quickie
Day 24: shower sex
Day 25: focus on foreplay sex
Day 26: fantasy sex - choose a character
Day 27: take a day off
Day 28: try a new position
Day 29: sex anywhere but the bedroom
Day 30: dinner date night with touching under the table

Already had my first day of sex! Finding a doable new position was tricky, but I think we found a good one

Let me know if you decide to join in and I'll try to update periodically

[kayla_j]

Omg. Jake doesn't know it yet, but we are soo doing this.

[Frans]

You have a busy month ahead Renae! Entire list looks a bit much to me, but if the goal is to get back into it.. should do the trick Day 30 one sounds like fun I must say.

[renae_d]

@kayla - haha, yes!! I doubt there will be complaints

@frans - Yes very busy! Day 2 and my boyfriend was already having your same reservations!

Today is wear something different and I'm interpreting it a little differently that most. I am wearing my pubic hair differently. I gave it a summer buzz! My boyfriend is not into sexy clothes or lingerie (story of my life) so I think he will find this change more sexy and fun. He said he just likes me naked, so I think I'll spend some extra time naked today!

[Sabrina]

What an intensive program

Have fun and enjoy it

Love and heaps of hugs Sabrina

[renae_d]

Okay so right now we're batting 4/7. We skipped kitchen because we realized that tiny kitchen + ant infestation was recipe for disaster. Sex with the clothes on got skipped because we were dead tired (we're both trying to exercise more and we were destroyed). Talking during sex got skipped because we realized there was no way he was going to keep a straight face.

Today is sex outside and I'm definitely excited for it. Normally we don't have any neighbors, so we can skinny dip and fool around as we please, but the neighbors have been around for the last couple of weeks. I think we might have to go for a late night skinny dipping session. This summer's floatie is a giant blue shell and I really want to try to have sex on it! I'll let you know how it goes!

Tomorrow is buy a sex toy so I've started doing some research. I've always been really curious about those lelo toys for couples https://www.lelo.com/wearable-vibrators Anyone have experience with the ones that you wear while you're having sex? It just doesn't seem like there's room for more stuff down there! I'm afraid to buy something that expensive and have it be super uncomfortable. One regular sized penis already feels like a lot to me!

Also, and this is just for the ladies, has anyone seen/tried this https://www.lelo.com/sona ??? It says it doesn't use vibrations but rather sonic waves? What the heck does that mean? And it stimulates the whole clit (not just the outer portion)? I am super curious. I feel a little bad though buying a toy which would really just be for my own enjoyment.

[Sabrina]

Dear Renae,
thanks for the update and these toys sounds soo interesting ....
Wish you all the fun you imagined to receive.

Love and heaps of hugs Sabrina

[renae_d]

Just bough the Sona! Can't wait to try it!

So last night was sex outside. As I said I had my heart set on sex on the pool floatie. Well, now being from Texas, I still have this idea in my head of warm nights and even warmer water. I spent many summer nights in the pool, when it was too warm to even want to swim during the day. But this is Spain, and the air was in the low 20s/70s and water was cool. We headed outside and stripped down naked and I actually started chattering! I climbed onto the floatie, squealing at the cold water. "Let's light a candle" my boyfriend suggested, which was adorable but actually did nothing for ambiance. The as he squatted naked over the top step of the pool, trying to plan how to get onto the floatie with me, we both just burst into uncontrollable laughter. The kind where you can't stop and you're gasping for air. The whole scene was just too comically absurd. We did eventually have sex outside the pool, but I am generally fine with the whole outcome because laughter is the best medicine, right?

6/9 - anyone trying to beat my score?

[Sabrina]

Dear Renae,
thanks for the update and these toys sounds soo interesting ....
Wish you all the fun you imagined to receive.

Love and heaps of hugs Sabrina

Dear Renae
…enjoy…
Would be great to hear from you and your testemonia

Love. and heaps of hugs Sabrina

[kayla_j]

I need help with ideas in order to prepare for naughty outfit sex!

[massfan3]

I love your story about the pool floatie! The image of the two of you laughing uncontrollably trying to make this work made me laugh just reading it.

I'm definitely intrigued to hear how the Sona works. The description makes it sound like some kind of next-level advance in sex toys. So it seems like it will either be a revelation...or a big disappointment, ha. Awaiting your verdict!

[renae_d]

Okay, I have now tried the sona alone, and during sex.

So I was expecting some kind of huge revelation in technology, and really this thing is still a vibrator (it vibrates!) but it is still pretty nifty. It's got some kind of touch detection or something, when you get close it starts sucking as well as vibrating - pretty crazy!

When I tried it alone I came basically straight away. I do like the cylindrical nature of it. Being completely surrounded by the vibrator is pretty awesome. It seems like they approached the clit as if it was a tiny penis, which it really kind of is. My only complaint was that its sooo intense. When you start to cum its too much and you have to pull away which kind of cuts off the orgasm a bit.

I also used it last night with my bf. It didn't really work great for during sex. It needs to stay in the exact right place so if you're moving a lot that could be a problem. Also its pretty big, so you can't be that close to your partner while you're using it. It wasn't bad, but maybe not ideal.

We took a few days off due to various mishaps (one night we had to take the cat to the emergency vet - she's totally fine!). So last night was porn night. Since we took a few days off we made sure to do it right. We made a fancy dinner, popped a bottle of rose, put fresh clean sheets on the bed. It was a fun night, and culminated in some great sex! Best night so far

8/11 so far - can't wait to embrace my inner dominatrix tonight

[massfan3]

Thanks for the nice review, Renae. That does seem like an intriguing approach for a toy: I'm glad you had fun with it, even if it got a bit too intense.

Have fun dominating your boyfriend tonight!

[AarontheMoor]

I think there's a larger lesson here, which is that role play is sexy. And role play would also improve AW photo shoots and videos. The majority of single model shoots are stripteases, and the story lines in the g/g and g/b shoots are mostly variants on "let me rub your neck" porn. There lots of sexy exceptions to this. Here's one from each genre:

Virginie spots stills photographer and is initially offended
Aletta sees passerby on a skateboard and seduces him
Renae challenges Gala to an arm wrestling contest

Obviously AW wouldn't do anything misogynist or degrading. And you'd skip all the standard porn tropes (naughty nurse, pizza delivery, etc). But role play could add some variance without losing the other qualities what make AW successful.

[renae_d]

Interesting that that's your take.

The challenge is on hold because I'm on my period and feel crappy.

Anyway, I think my take has been more along the lines of 'role play is sexy, but only if both of you think its sexy and are good at acting' (which does not describe my boyfriend). What has made this challenge good is mainly bringing sex to the front of our minds, and keep us engaged with 'how could I make this sexier and more than just the usual routine?'

The difficult part about incorporating more role play into AW shoots is that, in the case of most GG shoots, models are only just meeting each other that morning, and shooters spend that time doing the tons of stuff that needs to get organized and set up before the shoot. It's hard to set up a fictional scenario, in the space available, that seems plausible to everyone involved in that short time. Plus the added possible challenge of models who are not super confident in english.

You've got a better chance with the GB since they are at least more familiar. I remember my shoot with Ben, Michelle was like 'ok pretend you are watching tv.' We didn't want to be difficult, but I was thinking 'omg we've never just watched tv together, this doesn't even feel like us.' It was suggested like 30 seconds before we started shooting, and we just had to go with it. A more complicated scenario would have been really hard!

I think shooters just try to work something out that flows organically on the shoot day. With me and Gala, I suggested the 'contest/battle' element myself, and I think someone else came up with the arm wrestling (maybe Iz?) Dang that Gala was strong!

[laktor]

I have no list. For me there's just one item: Have sex. Someway, somehow. I'd be happy if that happened.

[AarontheMoor]

Laktor, have you considered volunteer work? This suggestion is pretty presumptuous, for all I know you could be wheelchair bound, 90 years old, 700 pounds, or live in a desolate wilderness (with really good internet coverage). But assuming you can get out of the house, consider finding a weekend cause that moves you. Maybe Habitat for Humanity? IT work for a cancer office? Security detail at the local Planned Parenthood? Maybe skip all that and take a class at the local community college? My point is, these are all ways to meet women on a neutral field, a place where you can get to know people with none of the fraught expectations of bars, Tinder, blind dates, etc.

Renae, thanks for all the details. I hadn't thought about ANY of those complications. What's interesting to me is that these role playing ideas are often conceived moments before shoots and yet they're often fresh and sexy. Sorry that I derailed your thread!

[laktor]

Laktor, have you considered volunteer work? This suggestion is pretty presumptuous, for all I know you could be wheelchair bound, 90 years old, 700 pounds, or live in a desolate wilderness (with really good internet coverage). But assuming you can get out of the house, consider finding a weekend cause that moves you. Maybe Habitat for Humanity? IT work for a cancer office? Security detail at the local Planned Parenthood? Maybe skip all that and take a class at the local community college? My point is, these are all ways to meet women on a neutral field, a place where you can get to know people with none of the fraught expectations of bars, Tinder, blind dates, etc.

Aaron, the problem my whole life has not been meeting women. I just haven't gotten anywhere with them. Ever since my first date as a teenager, it's been one, two, maybe even up to 4 dates on rare occasions, but that's as far as it's ever gotten. No girlfriends/partners/relationships...whatever you want to call them. Not once has it ever gone from a date to an eventual "we're together". Would you believe my first ever kiss was when I was almost 18, second when I was 25, and the last time was at age 39. That's been it. I don't even remember what it even feels like anymore. Sex? Forget it. I paid for it a few times, but that's it. Anyway, don't want to hijack Renae's thread for my problems.

[renae_d]

Laktor, I think we all just wish we could help somehow! I know there are so many lonely women in the world who would like the company and affection of a nice man such as yourself, and it seems like such a shame! Have you ever asked any female friends, or partners of friends of yours about it? I can understand you might not want to get into details with people, but I'm sure you could talk about it without getting too specific. They might have a clue as to what is keeping women from realizing what's great about you!

Just wanted to pop in with another anecdote (still haven't made to the end, but damnit, I'm not a quitter!)

So it was my day to be tied up, and my bf had this big secret plan for what he was going to do to me. The time came, and he tied me up, and then pulled out a feather (from one of the cat toys). His big plan was that he was going to torture-tickle me. Somehow, despite knowing me for like 4 years, he didn't know that I'm not ticklish. To be fair, I will sometimes giggle and squirm playfully if someone tickles me a tiny bit. It does tickle, and I'm a good sport about it. But this was a different story. I cackled maniacally, "you fool, I'm not ticklish." I perfected what I call 'the jelly method' when I was kid. You basically breathe into it, while chanting 'be jelly' and focus on relaxing all your muscles (especially the ones being tickled). Works every time. He was so disappointed I actually kinda felt bad. He got over it though

[Andreea]

I already noted the challenge task on a piece of papper and neet to show it to my boo. I will enjoy posting of it on how it goes and join the challenge ^_^.