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    So - full disclosure - I am a 44 year old mother of a 21 year old woman. When I think of using porn to get off, I do not think of it in the context of my daughter being the same age (or older) of some of the women on this site. When i do think about it in such a context, I feel like a "dirty old woman". When I do look at these videos, I think more about my memories of when I was that age and I wish AW was around back then and that I had the "balls" to go for it. Some of these women are really hot and I wish I were their contemporary.

    All of that being said and the the fact that I would likely choose doing lesbian porn for a site like AW, I would not choose it for my daughter. I would be mortified if I came across any porn that she did. I would not want to know. Now this is an interesting position for me since I have always had very open communication with my daughter regarding sex and sexuality. When she was fourteen and was contemplating having sex with her boyfriend, I sat them both down and told them: It is your body and it is precious and it is for you to say who you share it with. If you choose to share it with each other, then protect yourselves. If you choose to have sex, it does not mean that you are entitled to have sex whenever you want without the other person's consent. Also if you have sex and then one day break up, it does not mean you have to have sex with every other boy/girl friend you have.

    That is type of communication we have had. When she got an STD, she came to me. I know how many partners she has had and I know how she feels about herself as a sexual being.

    However while I would not berate her or love her any less or differently, if she choose to do any type of sex work, I would hope she would protect herself from diseases and violence. I would just rather not know about it. I agree with whoever said that they do not discuss the details of their parents sex life and don't need to discuss their own sex life with their parents.

    I have frank discussions with my daughter but I do think there is a line. I would never ask her about the details of sex with her boyfriend and I would never tell her the details of my own sex life.

    Chris Rock says it best http://youtu.be/tojBadSr2zI

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      Originally posted by Jemma View Post
      I'm very open with my modelling work. I've told everyone that I do it but not where to find it. I just can't help myself. I've got a big mouth and I'm painfully open and honest. I think my Mum is kinda used to me doing crazy things that she doesn't understand. I have very little contact with my family as they are all interstate but every now and again she does ask me "how is that nude thing that you do going?"
      I generally don't have the parents problem as most people mentioned. As I went thru a series of foster parents growing up and my biological parents I didn't really have much contact with. However, any family connection I did have, the r.ship would be similar to what you said... It would be absolutely no problem at all, and maybe even celebrated because the same way I see nude modeling is the same way they wud, and in fact one of my moms was bisexual and did modeling herself, including nudes and adult

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        Originally posted by Alexis View Post
        I could never tell my father (we get along incredibly well, and I know he'd get over it, but I'd rather save him the heartache), but as for my mother...she'd only be a little upset - but she'd spend years interrogating me about "how do you feel about it", "what influenced you to do it" etc. Remember, kiddies...a mum with a degree in Psychology isn't always a good thing! LOL.

        As far as my kids are concerned, I believe I'll be somewhat of a hippy mother - while I'd never actively encourage the modelling, I want my kids to be completely at ease with discussing such things with me so that if they wanted to do it I could at least help them to find the safest environment possible and avoid any scams/danger. Same applies to their sexual orientation - both my fiance and I believe in educating our children as to what's out there, and letting them walk their own path after that (knowing that we're there to fall back on if things get rough).

        Anyone would think I'm getting clucky or something
        Not sure what Clucky means... lol

        But you sound like you'd be a GREAT MOM!!!

        And YOUR mom soundsss HILARIOUSSSS lmfao.... I think it would be a good thing to have a psychologist mom!

        Keep in mind, I Love psychology and Hippies ;P

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          telling your parents

          I have 1460 GB of nude girls data from about 26 sites. I have now Met Art and Abbywiters only. I was a member in Abbywinters in 2005.


          I cannot understand the fear that all models share about telling their parents. A girl that have the courage to strip naked in front of the camera should not be afraid to tell her parents that she is a nude model. I ask our girls, was it easy for them when they entered the studio for the first time to strip naked in front of the camera? What was their feeling in removing their panty and exposing their vagina? All of our girls are courageous girls. Not any girl can pose nude.


          I do not have a daughter. But if I had one I would have allowed her to pose nude for art purposes only:


          1. No sex. Meaning no masturbation, no intercourse with bf or gf
          2. No explicit shoots. Her vagina is a part of her nude and can be photographed as such.

          In short she can pose nude as if she were in her art class at college. No dad can object to that.

          Rachel, you started the thread. what will be the reaction of your parents if you told them you want to pose nude for an art class??
          Last edited by kronful; 9 September 2012, 12:19 PM.

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            No, I think I can't never told them, because I don't know, thwy are not so open mind I think. It would be so much easier and fun If we were really free to do and tell anything the things we do I work as a webcam model sometimes too and I have to lie them about a job in an office. I don't know, maybe someday the know it and nothing happens but for today, I hide them a lot of my life

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              Old thread, but interesting topic. I wouldn't like my daughter to tell me she was here anymore than if she would tell me any other sexual stuff. She has as much right to do what she likes as I do. Someone told me something my other daughter did at a party, and I fkn hated to hear it, simply cause it didn't sound like she wanted to do it. If they wanted to be here, good for them, but don't tell me about it. Fair enough?

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                I have told my parents and sister and a few more people. I'm always very open about everything and hate to lie about anything. I don't want to make up an excuse about why I can not meet up one day because of a shoot. I just want to tell people about what a good time I have had.

                My parents took it well. They were a bit concerned about me getting into the "world of porn" because they did not know what AW is really like and that it does not mean that I have to do things I don't want to or will end up a drug addict or something. They realize I have made my decision and trust in me not to do anything stupid. They see that it makes me happy, that is the most important thing.

                I have always been very open about sexuality with my parents and I can discuss anything I want with them. This has made me more informed and more comfortable with sexuality and has made me think about what I want and do not want. I am not ashamed of my body and sexuality as I realize we are all just human and different, which is awesome. It has made me a lot happier I think. XXX Noa

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                  Originally posted by rachel_t View Post
                  i actually find the conversations & discussions on AW much more interesting and in-depth than most of the other forums i post on!
                  Me too, it is a place where i can relate with others stories and find a honest opinion on this and that!

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                    Are all the parents so open minded in Netherlands?

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                      I sort of lied to my parents. They think I modeled for a Playboy type site based out of the Netherlands. Just sexy nude glamour photography and NOT anything more explicit. Lmao. They would be so pissed if they knew the truth. But, there are also a lot of other things they don't know. I haven't lived with them in 11 going on 12 years. I am not sure why they need to know. They are very conservative and judgmental. They don't understand my more liberal views on all sorts of things.

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                        Originally posted by felicia_aw View Post
                        I sort of lied to my parents. They think I modeled for a Playboy type site based out of the Netherlands. Just sexy nude glamour photography and NOT anything more explicit. Lmao. They would be so pissed if they knew the truth. But, there are also a lot of other things they don't know. I haven't lived with them in 11 going on 12 years. I am not sure why they need to know. They are very conservative and judgmental. They don't understand my more liberal views on all sorts of things.
                        So no matter the location doing aw shoots still it is a taboo subject with family and also with friendz.
                        Myself, I am 26 and i am happy I discovered the winters world at 24 because, man, i had so many exams to pay and I felt so ugly because I was hanging with the wrong people in college, judging a little bit of belly, almost bald brows look and small lips.shooting helped me a lot feel good about my looks, payed my univ mistakes and helped moving on with all kinds of crisis....But I kept it for myself because I knew girls in my entourage wouldnt understand and make fun about it and Felicia is right : if parents dont know about your real life in 12 years why would it count if you would mention about one event which involves nudity?!??
                        I moved last summer from the city I used to live and cut off all the relationships i had there , so now I think I was wose to hold my horses and not making a big deal in my crew about shooting....well nude!

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                          I think talking about shooting nude is not shamefull but not understood ...you guys can call me a coward, but I just don't feel showing off��, call it a thing to cheeer yourself in the intimacy of your own place and sharing it with people who did it just like you .

                          Love for all the sweet models,
                          Andreea

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                            Andreea,
                            thanks for your thoughts and sharing your point of view.
                            Glad that you are here and we would miss you

                            Love Sabrina

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                              Originally posted by Sabrina View Post
                              Andreea,
                              thanks for your thoughts and sharing your point of view.
                              Glad that you are here and we would miss you

                              Love Sabrina
                              Missing me already?
                              But...but.... I ain't leaving anywhere ....my thought was about i wouldn't share it with people around me , only with the community on abby winters...since you guys can understand it!
                              ABBY winters for me is like a sunny day to the beach doing nudism by the sea side ....and enjoying the feels of the sun of the water , of the silence.....a calm feeling!

                              Kisses from Andreea

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