So - full disclosure - I am a 44 year old mother of a 21 year old woman. When I think of using porn to get off, I do not think of it in the context of my daughter being the same age (or older) of some of the women on this site. When i do think about it in such a context, I feel like a "dirty old woman". When I do look at these videos, I think more about my memories of when I was that age and I wish AW was around back then and that I had the "balls" to go for it. Some of these women are really hot and I wish I were their contemporary.
All of that being said and the the fact that I would likely choose doing lesbian porn for a site like AW, I would not choose it for my daughter. I would be mortified if I came across any porn that she did. I would not want to know. Now this is an interesting position for me since I have always had very open communication with my daughter regarding sex and sexuality. When she was fourteen and was contemplating having sex with her boyfriend, I sat them both down and told them: It is your body and it is precious and it is for you to say who you share it with. If you choose to share it with each other, then protect yourselves. If you choose to have sex, it does not mean that you are entitled to have sex whenever you want without the other person's consent. Also if you have sex and then one day break up, it does not mean you have to have sex with every other boy/girl friend you have.
That is type of communication we have had. When she got an STD, she came to me. I know how many partners she has had and I know how she feels about herself as a sexual being.
However while I would not berate her or love her any less or differently, if she choose to do any type of sex work, I would hope she would protect herself from diseases and violence. I would just rather not know about it. I agree with whoever said that they do not discuss the details of their parents sex life and don't need to discuss their own sex life with their parents.
I have frank discussions with my daughter but I do think there is a line. I would never ask her about the details of sex with her boyfriend and I would never tell her the details of my own sex life.
Chris Rock says it best http://youtu.be/tojBadSr2zI
All of that being said and the the fact that I would likely choose doing lesbian porn for a site like AW, I would not choose it for my daughter. I would be mortified if I came across any porn that she did. I would not want to know. Now this is an interesting position for me since I have always had very open communication with my daughter regarding sex and sexuality. When she was fourteen and was contemplating having sex with her boyfriend, I sat them both down and told them: It is your body and it is precious and it is for you to say who you share it with. If you choose to share it with each other, then protect yourselves. If you choose to have sex, it does not mean that you are entitled to have sex whenever you want without the other person's consent. Also if you have sex and then one day break up, it does not mean you have to have sex with every other boy/girl friend you have.
That is type of communication we have had. When she got an STD, she came to me. I know how many partners she has had and I know how she feels about herself as a sexual being.
However while I would not berate her or love her any less or differently, if she choose to do any type of sex work, I would hope she would protect herself from diseases and violence. I would just rather not know about it. I agree with whoever said that they do not discuss the details of their parents sex life and don't need to discuss their own sex life with their parents.
I have frank discussions with my daughter but I do think there is a line. I would never ask her about the details of sex with her boyfriend and I would never tell her the details of my own sex life.
Chris Rock says it best http://youtu.be/tojBadSr2zI
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